The Key to Resistance

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Unconscious beliefs control us

Resistance

When was the last time you felt so good about your life and it all came tumbling down within minutes because of a belief that exists in the subconscious that sneakily came up and took it all away?

The belief of, “I am not good enough”, “it is too late for me” or “I always make a mistake”, just to name a few.

Last week I shared “The Four Wellness Blocks” and am excited to elaborate the first one with you.

Resistance.

An unconscious defense mechanism where the brain considers “safe” as “predictable” (even if it’s “bad” for us). The brain values safety, predictability over happiness, change or growth (even if the change benefits us).

I see this with clients, friends, family, members and in myself. It is normal, normal, normal. We can not have growth without resistance, period.

Resistance will show up when you are on the brink of growth.

Story #1

You are about to ask for that raise you know you deserve. You typed out the email and had a couple of friends look it over. After a few days, you still can’t push the send button.

And then you drop it all together.

Your self esteem plummets and you stop doing all the things that support you. The buoys in life that keep you going in this world.

Because of the shame you stop taking care of yourself. Drop the morning routine that you have so benefitted from- start scrolling endlessly to distract you from all the feelings coming up.

All because of a deep, unconscious belief that you are not worthy.

Story #2

You finally pause and ask yourself “what is this about?”

You sit with the sensations happening in your body as you try to hit send again. Your heart beats, your mouth becomes dry.

You realize it’s actually a fear of not being worth the raise.

You sit with the sensations in your body, hold yourself with compassion and understanding.

You tell yourself you are safe either way this goes. You comfort yourself like a loving mother would her child when they are scared. You validate your fears and meet them with kind words and presence.

You see this resistance and work with it, instead of against it. This presence and being seen by yourself gives you the confidence you need.

You hit send.

Success!

As Carl Jung said:

"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate"

I know this story so well, because I lived it and still do from time to time.

When resistance comes up I work with clients to break the shame that keeps us on the self sabotage wheel, see patterns that keep us on the wheel and understand the belief that keeps us in a holding pattern.

If something resonated within you when you read this, I invite you to book a free call with me to see what is underneath your current resistance.

With wellness,

Catherine

Wellness Mentor | Massage Therapist

ASL & English

P.S. Interested in what it would be like to work with me? Me too!! Schedule a free Exploration Call to see if we are a good fit!